All the way up under the roof, right by lake and forest, I live in Silkeborg with my little family (partner and dogs). The nature means a lot to me, I love long walks and just absorbing all the sensory inputs. I remember how some years ago, after a heavy and dark depression, I suddenly saw all the colors of the nature clearly. For me, it felt like the first time ever that I truly and genuinly noticed what the nature really is. Overwhelmed and in awe I walked through Risskov (Aarhus) and took it all in. Listened to the gentle whooshing of the leaves, the birds singing, the little scratching noises from the animals. Smelled the sharp scent of the wild garlic, felt the warmth of the spring wind, saw for the first time the many nuances of color. This moment was a crucial turn for me, and since then I've practiced presence and mindfulness, because life had for way too long been grey and dark. It means a lot to me now to live in balance - in balance with my emotions, in my relations, in balance with my values. This has been a LONG and HARD fight to learn!

Psychological abuse

Some time ago I went through a relationship that tore me apart. The relationship was full of violence, which at the time was so hidden for me, that I undermined myself completely. It has taken me many years to rebuild myself, refind the inner core that centers you in heavy weathers. My sense of reality had been disturbed and my self-worth cracked.

When you finally get out of a psychologically abusive relationship, you may not be aware of what has been going on. In most abusive relationships, we build narratives, stories, about the reality which overshadow every common sense. Therefore we can end up overlooking our own boundaries, adapting, submitting, pleasing and apologizing. We do things we do not want to, because we try to uphold the story of love. For a long time, I ignored the giant knot in my stomach that was all my overstepped boundaries. It can feel shameful to have let someone else overstep your boundaries, which makes it so hard to talk about. That's why, often, we end up keeping it to ourselves for way too long.

It's very much my own story that drives my work with the topic. I've felt on my own body how self-destruction through someone else feels, and I understand how difficult it is to navigate in. I experience that my personal knowledge makes a big difference for the clients I have, who have gone through something similar. In my own journey back to life, I also went to a lot of therapy, with different therapists. Besides therapy I've also used writing a lot to process what I've experienced. One exciting writing project is becoming a book, which will be available next year! It can be extremely healing to hear others' stories that we can relate to, as it validates our own experience of the reality that we lived.